I'm a writer. I like drawing words and images together to create something new. Yesterday, somebody asked me to describe my divorce. That got me thinking: if I had to create metaphor for my divorce, what would it be? How would I describe it to others?
Train wreck? Well that's too obvious. And very over done. Besides. I'm riding solo on this train. How often does that happen? That would make it a train wreck without a train. No good.
A bullet to the head? No, that's too quick. Granted, a misplaced bullet could leave you brain dead and not physically dead dead. Still, even that's not the same; right now, I'm fully conscious and aware of what's going on. Oh, I should also explain that when I say "misplaced" I mean "misfired" and not "Where did I put my pesky bullet?"
Torture is closer. It's drawn out and painful, but it's too vague. There's a Jelly Belly bag of torture flavors choose from. And lets face it, some people like the icky popcorn ones. I don't see anybody lining up for Disney's "Prince Charming's Harrowing Divorce" ride. Haven't seen that one? It's pretty scary. Just look for the sign in Sad Realityland of Prince Charming weeping into his palms. It's over by Mr. Toad's frog leg buffet. Apparently the wind stopped blowing money through the willows, ending his wild ride. Mr. Toad now does unspeakable acts for money.
Mmm…Tastes like chicken!
Divorce is a handful of raw meat. I don't know, it just sounded weird and gross. I wanted that image, Still, raw meat doesn't take it far enough.
This was where I gave up. I never give up but there comes a time when every effort is just spinning the wheels of futility. All my options have been taken from me, leaving me alone to redefine my world. It's nothing like it was, and nothing is like a divorce. Divorce serves no good purpose, it's impossible to bear and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Not even MyUnwife. Huh, well that's just ironic.
4 comments:
Your last paragraph was perfect. I'm so sorry for you. I hope you don't mind, I'm planning on using your prospective in my paper. I writing about divorce and how I'm totally against it. Thanks for putting your thoughts out there.
Thanks Adria! I'm glad you enjoyed. Go ahead use it, so long as you give credit where credit is do. I hope you can maintain your perspective on divorce. I have. Still, be careful. Life has a way of throwing the things we're most against in our face. Remember compassion and forgiveness are your greatest allies.
Hi, I am looking for a metaphor, something that I can describe that will give adults the same feelings that children have when their parents separate. That is how I found your site. I just wanted to tell you I am very sorry about your divorce,and I know how painful it can be. I related my divorce to an amputation. I felt somewhat crippled, I could not do the same things I did when we were a couple, and when I remarried I still could see the metaphor playing out. It was like getting a prosthetic leg, it worked, I loved it, and it was definately a God send, but still not a part of me like my biological leg. I hope that does not offend anyone bt i just wanted to share that with you. and if you have any ideas on how i can relate how children feel in divorce to adults and make them feel it please share it with me
Hey Bobbijean! I am so sorry, I just noticed your post today. I need to find out why blogger isn't notifying me of comments. hmm. Anyway, as the child of a divorce, I can tell you, "I don't know." The perfect metaphor for how children feel? I don't know that there is one, because it's so confusing. It's a painful new experience. When my parents divorced I was confused. They kept asking me which parent I wanted to live with, and I couldn't equate that to anything except that if I chose one, I would never see the other. I'll continue to think on this though. Maybe I'll find something...Thanks for reading bobbijean!
Post a Comment